| You finally land a date with a hot chick that you're | | | | attentive, but are proactive about it. If you bumped |
| attracted to, and you show up at the door with | | | | into her at a book store, do you remember which |
| flowers and candy. You're thinking, "Good job, Tiger!" | | | | section you were in? What she was reading? Pick up |
| Well, while you may be telling yourself that, the | | | | a book of the same author or topic for her. You |
| woman on the receiving end is thinking something | | | | can't imagine how many brownie points that will earn |
| entirely differently. | | | | you. |
| Flowers and candy were once thought to be | | | | And before you show up for your date, have |
| "romantic" or a "gentlemanly gesture." That was also | | | | something about the gift in mind that you want to |
| in the days of Leave it to Beaver. Times have | | | | talk about. Don't think that her heart and affection |
| changed, women have changed. Things that worked | | | | will be yours upon receiving the gift. You have to |
| back then, just don't work now. They don't carry | | | | know WHY you're giving it to her, and be able to |
| any merit, and in fact, they actually may hurt you. | | | | articulate it at the same time. |
| Let me tell you why. | | | | In the book example, do a little research on the |
| What you thought was such a sweet gesture on | | | | author. Find out what types of books the author |
| your part, just told the woman you are taking on a | | | | writes. Maybe check out some editorial reviews that |
| date a very different thing. To her, flowers and | | | | you can "borrow" to make it appear that you know |
| candy represent a wimpy token of appreciation in | | | | what you are talking about. And at the very least, it |
| hopes of receiving her attention in exchange. They | | | | will show that you went the extra mile to look up |
| are unoriginal, lack creativity, and are just plain | | | | one of her interests. |
| cheesy. You might get a fake smile in return, and | | | | In her mind, if you get into something just because |
| maybe a hug if you're lucky, but they will both lack | | | | she is interested in it, that will show her you can |
| sincerity. Strike ONE! | | | | express similar enthusiasm later down the road. And |
| Not only will they lack sincerity, but you have just | | | | if she starts picturing the near future with you in it, |
| lost any ounce of respect you were hoping to | | | | that'll do so much for the current date you are going |
| establish. Any ordinary fellow can pick up flowers, so | | | | on. |
| you have to do something to set yourself apart | | | | Trust me, you'll see more enthusiasm on her end, |
| from those other guys. | | | | which will make for an engaging date for the both of |
| Try something different. Think about every | | | | you. And you know what that means...usually another |
| conversation that you have had with her. If you | | | | date very soon. |
| were listening, she probably told you more than | | | | So, to sum up the key points of this installment... |
| enough about herself to give you a clue on her likes | | | | 1. NOOOOOOO flowers and candy. Did I get my |
| and dislikes. | | | | point across? |
| Where did you meet her? At a coffee shop? At a | | | | 2. Be creative. Bring something of context. |
| book store? At the mall? Bringing something of | | | | 3. Research before you give her the gift. And have |
| context to her will show that you not only are | | | | something articulate to say about it. |